Becoming a mother is a difficult journey. There aren't many things in life that can compare to the complexities of parenthood. As a result of this enormous responsibility, you now barely have time for yourself. Now combine that with stretch marks and unwanted baby fat that refuses to disappear, and it's easy to feel insecure and have a decline in your self-assurance afterward.

Don't beat yourself up; you're not the only one who feels this way! Many women suffer a loss of confidence after childbirth. So, to answer your question about regaining confidence, get reacquainted with yourself. Learn to love and appreciate your postpartum body and all that it represents.

The love you have for yourself is something that has to be nourished to develop. It does not grow overnight. You will see significant adjustments in how you show up for others in your life as you practice the art of self-love. Loving and embracing yourself allows your heart and mind to open up and become more loving and vulnerable.

In regards to your relationship, communication is vital. You can gain deeper knowledge about what's happening in your relationship if you have a conversation with your partner. Keep in mind that it's equally important to listen to your partner's feelings and concerns as it is for you to express yours. It would also be beneficial to find ways to spend more time doing activities that bring you closer together. This will help to begin restoring intimacy in the relationship. 

3 self-help exercises to boost your confidence and regain intimacy in your relationship: 

1. Communicate with your partner and thoroughly express your feelings and concerns. Remember that successful communication is not one-sided. It is critically important to listen to your partner's wants and desires.

2. Engage in activities that encourage self-love during this time, utilizing physical and emotional techniques. Exercise, talk to loved ones, start a self-care routine, do activities that made you feel good before, etc.

3. Avoid comparing yourself to others. I know it's easier said than done, but really focus on your self-worth and strive to improve yourself every day.

Combined, these three tasks can help you feel more confident with yourself and more empowered in your relationship.